Setting Effective Boundaries

Do you happen to have travel plans to be around family this holiday weekend? Here are 3 simple tips for setting effective boundaries with family!

Okay, it happened. Something was said that completely threw you off. Take a second to explore what exactly is coming up for you. How much does their comment line up to old narratives/stories vs. what you know to be true now. Don’t soak it in but hold it out in your hand and closely examine

Lets use our voice.

1. Be Direct:

Try not to dance around the issue or your feelings at hand. Do your best to speak firmly around the action that did not sit well with you, the impact, and what you need.

2. Keep it Short:

Take a deep breath. You got this. Theres no need to make this a long conversation. Keep it short and to the point.

3. Open the Door for Reconnection (if you have the capacity)

This is a power move for you to let them know how to best love/care/connect with you. It's your chance to speak up and use your voice and let your needs be known.

"...[this] didnt work for me, but [this] could"

Example: Family member: Wow! You've put on a few pounds girl! That dress is a bit snug. What's going on with you??

Response: I really don’t appreciate comments about my body. It makes me feel uncomfortable. When I visit, I feel most supported when you ask questions about: how I have been, what new projects i’m leading at work, or how my partner and I are adjusting to the city.

You got this!

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